"I had this fantasy that my child and I would walk hand in hand across the park. Little did i know that when he got mad he would spit on me...." - a parent.
I try to be a good parent. I try to be active with them. But when I have days that I have been kicked, spat, hit, and screamed at. I wonder what the hell has possessed my child? What the hell am I doing wrong? Just, What the Hell????? And when those days happen, I tend to retreat and spend less time since so much energy was used to stay sane.
So after a day like that, instead of running to Barnes and Noble in tears like last time, I picked up my iPad and ordered another book by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, Kids, Parents and Power Struggles. I needed to. With the "success" of reading Raising the Spirited Child, providing me insight on temperament, mood, and other fine qualities of a spirited child, I hoped maybe she could help me.
And now into the third chapter, I laugh. God, she gets it. There are others out there who do the same thing. But more importantly, it is NOT about the kid, it is about how I am reacting. I need(ed) to start reflecting on how my sensitive child is picking up on my stresses and body language.
I will let you know how it goes. Thank god for instant gratification of a Nook program.
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